When it comes to love and career, it’s all too easy to prioritize one over the other. In both case scenarios, failure to strike a balance between the two could result in putting your relationship or your job at jeopardy. When you spend most of your time and energy into your relationship, it could very possibly hinder your productivity at work. Similarly, putting your career first could result in your partner feeling like chopped liver. Lucky for you, It's Just Lunch has some great advice for helping professional singles balance between their personal and professional life so they can achieve success in both.
If it’s not on your schedule, it’s never going to happen.
If you’re like most professional singles, you may have forgotten what it means to have personal time because you’ve dedicated any free time you do get to growing your career or business. The lines may have even started blurring if your social life revolves around work like it does for most professionals who spend most of their waking days with clients, colleagues and associates. But it’s important to block out time for each area of your life you’d like to see improvement. Just like you need to put time in at the gym to stay in shape, you have to put in the time to dating if you have any shot at meeting worthy of your time and affections. Make a commitment to yourself to create opportunities for yourself where you’re most likely to meet the kind of people you want to be meeting. This could mean attend weekly networking events or maybe even joining a book club.
Leave work in the office where it belongs.
This tip works hand in hand with the first tip. For the most part, work can and should only be done at work. If there is a deadline that must be reached tomorrow, and the work was pushed aside until now, then finish it. However, also reconsider some of your work habits because it is no one’s fault but your own if you fall behind on your deadlines. Maximize your time at work so you can maximize your time outside of work for a more fulfilling personal life. Try not to let your work become your life as it can often times be a total turn off and make you seem boring to your date, even if you’re really a fun and adventurous person outside of work.
Shift your priorities in favor of activities that better serve you.
Going to the gym to stay fit is an activity worth keeping on your calendar. Spending time with your closest friends is also important since relationships, in all its forms, make the world go round. However, wasting time binge-watching TV shows, or only hanging out with a small clique of friends is not okay. There are many activities that waste time and energy, and these are among some that should be removed. Analyze how you’re really spending your time and make the changes needed so you can get more focused on your relationship goals.
Be as objective with dating as you are with business.
Too many singles are using work as an excuse for not dating. If that’s the case, then you have no right to complain about your love life if you aren’t doing anything to change it or make it better. Studies have consistently shown that most people assume they don’t have time because of prior arrangements, but when time is truly broken down, the people who say, “I have too much work to do,” typically spend a majority of their time procrastinating instead. Stop making excuses for yourself and become as objective with your personal life as your are with business. Set yourself a goal of meeting at least one new person every week, much like you might set a goal for yourself at work of closing one deal every week and take the actions steps you need to reach your weekly goals.
In summary, finding balance between love and career is all about segmenting your time, and taking the right actions during time dedicated to improving your personal and professional life. Everyone has their own schedule, but everyone has more free time at their disposal than they realize.
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